Many times in relationships, we find ourselves fighting with one another and yet have no idea what we are fighting about. We start to see each other as “the enemy.” And yet, many times that is not the case. Each person is NOT the enemy. It is things from their past or our past or a combination of both (which is usually the case) that is the enemy. Things from our past, that have shown up in the present. And without awareness of this condition, we end up fighting each other and making each other the enemy. This is sad because in the moment, we are not the enemy, it is the past that is the enemy. It may be others that are the enemy, but not the person who is in front of you in the moment. They just represent the enemy. And it is with an understanding of this that can change a fight into a connection. It just takes awareness of this phenomenon and an understanding of it to shift a tense and volatile situation into a resolution and connection.
This is not easy, however it is necessary for learning, growth and healing for both that are involved in a relationship. So next time you are seeing someone you love as the enemy, I challenge you to be able to see who the “real enemy” is in the moment.
Namaste, my friends.
The "SEMI" Traveller 